I’m getting ready to go to work and just found your blog. I finally got away from the N. I left him 4 years ago after being disrespected over and over again and not understanding why. After several years of counseling I’m doing so much better and I haven’t heard or talked with him for nearly a year. I decided that for me I would heal a lot faster if I had no contact with him. I was told by my therapist that I do need to be careful with friends I choose — male and female because I seem to be attracted to N personalities so now I’m extremely selective who I want to be friends with.
Welcome Ing: Yes, No Contact is the very best thing indeed.
Selecting friends who will build us up and not tear us down is also very good to follow.
I hope that you will be able to come back and read here soon.
ES